Archive for October, 2008

Movie Madness Mondays – The Others

October 30, 2008


Sooo…to stick in line with Halloween, I thought a great scary movie to watch over the weekend and review would be THE OTHERS! Check out the trailer gals….FREAKY!…maybe a good scary movie will scare me enough to get Extra Little (Big) to come on out of the womb. Tee hee!


Week 39 – 3 MORE DAYS!

October 29, 2008

OMG! 3 MORE DAYS UNTIL MY DUE DATE! Besides the fact that I cant see my feet anymore, my left foot looks like an alien innovator, there is what appears to be a leg sticking out the side of my stomach, I cant sleep, I cant sit, I cant stand and I gotta pee every two minutes, all is well, and I am uber excited for the arrival of EXTRA LITTLE, who clearly is EXTRA BIG now.

Oh did I mention that my hips are being forced apart by a human head getting ready to embark down the birth canal, which I imagine must be something like going head first down a big huge water slide. My legs are like two dead weights, I HAVE NO MUSSCLES to lift them, there seems to be a babies body in the way!

My gal pals warned me that the last few weeks of pregnancy were going to be a wee bit uncomfortable. WEEEEE!??? I say….WEEE?! At this point I am fully possessed by this adorable little impostor that doesn’t seem to want to join us here in the world.

So, me and Extra Little (BIG) had a little discussion yesterday, I was like “Extra, its time to come out, I am evicting you form my womb now, come on out, we want to meet you.” Extra responded with a swift kick to the ribs, ahhhh but I caught that wee little foot and poked it back in there…first mother-child disagreement. Feisty little thing in there is always up to something, all hours of the day…must be some sort of going away party happening in there.

The suspense is killing me and I honestly cant wait to meet this new little being that is going to be joining our life! Only days left to go hopefully! Yippi! I will keep you all posted!


A Story of Inspiration – Meet Team Hoyt!

October 28, 2008

We focus a lot on Fab Females and this is shut out to all you FAB MALES out there!

I just had to share this story and thank my brother Jason for sending it to me this morning.

Jason simply wrote “Just when you think you have it rough, things aren’t going your way, and feel like giving up…think of Team Hoyt! You’re a stronger person then I if you have a dry eye after watching this inspirational story.”


News Day Tuesday: In Poverty and Strife, Women Test Limits

October 28, 2008

Moises Saman for The New York Times)
Zeinab Husseini, 19, sits in the drivers seat of her vehicle accompanied by her husband. (photo: Moises Saman for The New York Times)

Moises Saman / The New York Times)
Second Lt. Nahida Rezai, 25, was the first woman to join the Afghan National Police in the town of Bamian. (photo: Moises Saman for The New York Times)

Habiba Sarabi, governor of Bamian (photo: Zalmai for TIME)

So I know that last week’s headline was kind of a bummer.  Knowing that sexist men get paid more is kind of like saying the CEO of a long-established investment firm should get more than 300 million dollars in bonuses even if his firm ends up declaring one of the largest bankruptcies in history, thereby contributing to the current global financial meltdown.  Ahahaha!  Wouldn’t that be a riot?  What’s that?  That actually happened?  Oh.

Well, sexism and financial crises aside, fear not fellow citizens of the GBD!  For the plucky women of Bamiyan, Afghanistan are here to lift your spirits!

First up is Habiba Sarabi – governor of Bamiyan.  And not just any governor mind you, but the first and only female governor in Afghanistan.  And this woman’s got spunk.  Bamiyan’s a small town, ravaged by years of war and hardship.  So you would think (ok, so I would think) with all the problems that come with war, that protecting the environment would be the least of the governor’s worries.  And I would be wrong.  She is working to establish Band-i-Amir as Afghanistan’s first national park, and she means business.  When a platoon from the Afghan National Army visited the park and left their trash behind, Governor Sarabi called them back and lectured them – told them to clean up after themselves.  The army.  Yeah…she’s not joking around.

Next up are regular citizens like Nahida Rezai and Zeinab Husseini, who are breaking down cultural and gender barriers in order to support their families.  Rezai is the first woman to join the police force in Bamiyan.  Husseini is the first woman to drive in Bamiyan.  Yep.  To drive.  Think about that one for a second.

And finally, there are the many women of the 17,000 Community Development Councils throughout Afghanistan, including Bamiyan.  There are both men’s and women’s councils, each of which come up with their own ideas for local development projects.  In Bamiyan, one of the projects the women’s council came up with was to install solar panels to provide light, and now the project has opened up all sorts of possibilities, such as computers, televisions, and educational programs.  You can read more about all of these fabulous women here.

Why do you think the women of Bamiyan have been able to make this kind of progress, despite all of the obstacles and hardship they face?  Actually, hold that thought.  First I should ask…do you think what is happening with these women IS progress?  There are quite a few people in the world who would argue otherwise – that to continue with this type of change will only lead to the breakdown of the very fabric holding their communities together.  Thoughts?

Movie Madness Mondays “Imagine Me and You”

October 27, 2008

“You don’t know, you can never be sure, but you take the plunge anyway. Sure is for people who don’t know enough”. This is true on so many levels, but never more so when it comes to love. A friend of mine recently got married and when she was asked how can she be sure her husband is the one, she said that even though she just knows, sometimes she still has natural doubts. Even when we feel we’re sure about something, we can never control everything, especially matters of the heart. Imagine meeting your soul mate at your wedding, of all places!
Imagine Me & You explores what happens when your soul mate turns out to be someone you would never have imagined. After seeing Luce for the first time at her wedding, Rachel finds herself falling for her and is convinced she is the one. While her new husband Hector has done nothing wrong and seems to be a good guy, Rachel cannot escape the fact that Luce might actually be the one she is to spend the rest of her life with.
We often find ourselves in situations where we are confronted with new emotions and sometimes they can surprise us. Some of us might find it unfathomable to even consider falling for someone of the same sex and for some of us it doesn’t really matter. Loving someone is hard enough sometimes, but when something new adds to the complication, we find it hard to do admit to ourselves it is what we really want. In the film, Rachel is naturally reluctant to hurt her husband and decides to stay with him, despite her love for Luce. Out of love for Rachel, it is Hector who pushes Rachel to admit her feelings for Luce and leaves.
One of the hardest things we do every day is just being ourselves. No matter how frightening some things about ourselves seem to be, we should never be afraid to admit them. The movie does have a happy ending in a way, where Rachel finally embraces her new life with Luce and it seems to find her happiness. I did feel a little sorry for Hector, but it seems in the epilogue that he found his soul mate as well.
Imagine Me & You is a sweet film, and this from someone who doesn’t usually like romantic comedies. The movie is a love story, pure and simple and gives me, at least, hope for the future.


Comic Book Request

October 24, 2008

So besides the side of me that works all of the time, there’s also the other equally geeky side of me that loves comic books. I’m a huge Joss Whedon fan and am currently in love with the Buffy Season 8 comics. Willow is my favorite because she’s got such an awful destiny to try to beat and it seems like its going to take some amazing inner strength and personal growth for her to do that.

Your turn! What comic books do you all read (if you do at all) and what do you like the most about your favorite characters and your favorite stories in comics? Who is your favorite writer(s) and illustrator(s) and why?

Next Weeks Movie for Monday

October 21, 2008

Yo Yo Ladies! Soooo next weeks movie is going to be reviewed by a fabulous GBD MEMBER…Superkurre is her username…Woot! Woot! and the movie of choice is, “Imagine Me and You” check out the trailer!



ps if you too want to do a review send us an email:)

News Day Tuesday: Sexist Men Earn More

October 21, 2008

George Marks / Retrofile / Getty
(photo: George Marks / Retrofile / Getty)

That headline pretty much sums up the findings of a study detailed by this article. But hold on! Before we start throwing sharp objects at the injustice of it all, let’s discuss what the findings of this study could possibly mean. Besides, violence is not the answer. That, and sharp objects cost money. The really good sharp objects anyway. Not that I would know anything about that. Umm…moving on!

Okay, so the researchers didn’t actually use the word “sexist” in their 19-page report. That’s just me and calling it like it is. Hehe. Anyway, the researchers used the terms “traditional” and “egalitarian” to describe how much people agreed or disagreed with the following statements:

  1. A woman’s place is in the home, not the office or shop.
  2. A wife with a family has no time for outside employment.
  3. Employment of wives leads to more juvenile delinquency.
  4. It is much better if the man is the achiever outside the home and the woman takes care of the home and family.
  5. Women are much happier if they stay home and take care of children.

What the researchers found was that the more traditional men’s attitudes became (i.e., the more they agreed with the above 5 statements), the more money they made. However, the reverse was true for women – the more traditional their attitudes, the lower their incomes. Exactly how much more coin are traditional men making? $8,548. If you only count the men who worked outside the home, the difference increases to $11,930. (You can click on the figure below for a bigger picture.)

(figures from: Journal of Applied Psychology: Is the Gap More Than Gender?, Timothy A. Judge and Beth A. Livingston)

So what’s the deal here? Why does sexism pay for men? The researchers propose that maybe it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – that if a man feels it is his duty to financially support his family, then maybe he will work harder or negotiate more aggressively for a higher salary. What do you think? Agree? Disagree? Neither? Can you think of any other explanations?

The researchers state: “Parents, educators, employers, and media reinforce social norms and mores; given the results observed here, these groups should carefully attend to the values and attitudes that are communicated through messages, policies, and behavior…Collectively, institutions that socialize children to accept traditional gender role orientations may be sowing the seeds of gender economic inequality.”

Which “messages, policies, and behavior” do you think they’re referring to? What can you do – what can WE do – to change things?

A Little Controversy is Fun!

October 20, 2008

I was talking to someone the other day about Global Warming. I said something to the effect of, “Regardless of whether or not “global warming” is man made, it is still important for us to take care of our environment, and create sustainability.” This person responded with some indignation that it was not okay for me to even suggest there was a possibility that man-made “global warming” was not %100 true. I think the whole subject is getting a wee bit taboo… And when you aren’t supposed to question something any longer I get a little curious. So here is an article published by the National Post newspaper that talks about some of the other data that is out there. Enjoy! THE ARTICLE
I want to be the kind of person who looks at things from all angles, open and willing to take in information and then determine what I think seems the most true.


Movie Madness Mondays – Freedom Writers

October 20, 2008

In my opinion, Freedom Writers is a remarkable true story about a teacher, Erin Gruwell, played by Hilary Swank that makes a difference in a group of violent gang invested kids. If you haven’t seen it yet, I highly recommend it!

Everyday is like living in a war zone for these kids, they divide themselves into tribes and try to survive one day at a time. Why are they fighting? They say they are fighting for race, pride and respect.

An unsuspecting teacher comes into their lives and encourages them to see the value in themselves and each other. She inspires them to stop, take a look at their lives and make a change. Together they begin to build themselves and create value in the world by sharing their stories.

I think before any shift amongst people can happen, first there needs to be understanding and compassion. How far would have Erin been able to go with this kids without first trying to understand, where they have been and where they are at now? Sure she could of run them through the conveyer belt of the educational system, but purpose what that have served?

It’s interesting to me how these shifts happen and how we can all participate in our own lives to make a difference.

I had someone ask me recently, is there a collective mission that ALL people around the world can live by no matter what your race, religion, and status? What do you think that would be? They asked me to imagine a world where I could still live by my beliefs and include a higher collective belief that would move all people forward?

I want to ask you all of you the same question.

In my opinion this story is incredibly inspirational; one of my favorite quotes comes to mind “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world.” – Margaret Mead.

Xo Kendra